Have you ever wondered if your inhibition is holding you back from being happy? Sadly, your hang-ups can not only drain you mentally, but they can wreak havoc on your emotions.
If you feel stressed and anxious most days, it could be your fears that are causing you much duress.
It’s normal to have some anxieties in life as everyone is different, and you come with their own thoughts and belief system. However, for the person who struggles with inhibitions, you believe that you have the gift to read others’ minds, and you think they’re always having derogatory thoughts towards you.
The good news is that you can let go of these hang-ups if you’re willing to put in the time and effort to work on you. It would help if you learned that the challenges that come along with life are beyond your control. Remember, you cannot regulate things like whether it rains or snows, genetic conditions you were born with, or your intellect.
How Inhibition Can Hold You Back
Though you may influence others, you will never control other adults’ thoughts or actions. Wouldn’t it be great if you always got what you wanted in life? Sadly, that’s never going to happen. As you start on this journey towards becoming a better you, keep these things in mind:
- In some circumstances, being unhappy or miserable will be inevitable.
- You may be the cause of much of your pain.
- Only you have the power to stop your mental torment by controlling your hang-ups.
- You can have a good life if you stop creating your own suffering.
- You need to define your values and goals and not let anyone detour you from them.
Fifteen Ways Your Inhibition is Interfering with Your Joy
Did you ever consider that your thoughts and actions might be harmful to you? Many people cause useless suffering to themselves. Here are some of the behaviors that can zap your happiness.
1. You Bite Your Tongue to Avoid Conflict
Rather than speaking up about something you know is or isn’t right, you choose to stay silent. You’re afraid to stand out from the crowd and be different. Sadly, you watch many injustices done and do nothing about them.
2. You Miss Out on Meeting Wonderful New People
Your shy and often self-conscious personality makes you afraid to step out of your comfort zone. You could meet new and exciting people and enjoy more experiences if you could only let go just a little bit. Stop worrying about the possibility they might not like you.
3. You’re Afraid to Change Jobs for Fear of The Unknown
You’ve probably passed over many jobs or even a career path because you’re scared. You don’t trust in yourself enough to learn something new or to leave a job that you’ve stagnated in just because it’s familiar.
4. Traveling to New Places Is Out of The Question
You tend to choose the same vacation spots, maybe even identical cabins or hotels each year. When it comes to eating out, you have your favorite restaurants where you order the same thing. You are terrified to go to new places because you’re afraid you won’t fit in or people will stare at you.
5. You’re Afraid to Ask for Raise or a Promotion
You’ve been looked over for a promotion or raise for many years. You refuse to say anything or stand up for yourself no matter how much you deserve it. You’re so afraid the boss may get mad and fire you that you become a doormat where they can walk all over you.
6. You Don’t Speak Up for Yourself
You let people walk all over you, and it hurts you deeply. Still, you would rather keep friends and relatives close that are toxic than to have no relationships at all. You’re incredibly fearful of losing this relationship, so you let them treat you any old way.
7. You Can’t Say No
One of the biggest problems that you have is that you don’t know when to say no. Your schedule is already full, and you’re exhausted. Yet, when anyone asks you to do a favor, you don’t have the power within yourself to say no.
Quit blaming yourself for things that are out of your control. You put a lot of baggage on your shoulders when it isn’t your burden to bear. Of course, you can’t help it if your parents get a divorce, your spouse is sick, or that the weather is terrible outside. You will find comfort when you learn that you’re not at fault for everything.
9. You Put on An Act for The Outside World
You wear a mask every day when you go to work because you’re afraid for people to see the real you. One person in this entire world is uniquely you, and no one should ever make you feel like you must hide.
You can be free to play the music you want, wear the clothes you love, and it’s okay to drive a small gas, nice car. Stop conforming to what others think is a perfect world and live for you.
10. You Put Others Ahead of Yourself
You’re a kind person, and you often let the needs of others come before you. Your children have more clothes than they know what to do with, but it’s been three years since you’ve bought yourself anything. It’s good to take care of family and those around you, but at some time, your needs must come into play. Self-care is essential.
11. You Hide Your Emotions
There have been many times you’ve wanted to cry or get angry, but you keep your emotions stifled. It’s okay to show people that you’re not happy all the time. If you are afraid to show your feelings, then you’re not real with others.
12. You Try to Please Everybody
Being a people pleaser is one of the most significant inhibitions that folks must overcome. It doesn’t matter what others think of you. Your opinion is what counts most, followed by your spouse. You can try your entire life, but you will never please all the people all the time.
13. You Ignore Your Intuition
How many times has your gut tried to tell you something, but you won’t listen to it? You’re so afraid to trust yourself that you don’t even listen to your intuitive nature trying to help you out.
14. You Don’t Believe in Yourself
Sadly, you don’t need anyone else to put you down or feel less than because you do a good enough job of this by yourself. One of your significant hang-ups is that you don’t see the value and worth you carry. If you don’t believe in yourself, then how can you expect others to?
15. Inventing and Dwelling on Painful Inner Dramas
Your inhibition may come along with an anxiety disorder. For instance, you just received word that there was a terrible accident two miles from your job. The interstate is shut down.
The first thought that comes to your mind is that your spouse travels this way to work. Your mind instantly goes to ideas of how you would carry on if they died. Then your mind leaps to a conversation yesterday, and you assume they probably fell out of love with you anyway.
In the next five minutes, you’ve convinced yourself that you need to start job hunting or you will live in poverty because you’ve probably lost your spouse. You have a vivid imagination, and it’s killing you mentally. You should seriously consider using these talents to write a screenplay, but it won’t do you much good in this life.
Your imagination can spin tales that are scary, outrageous and will rock your peace of mind.
Every person has experienced one of these fifteen misery makers a time or two in their life. No one is perfect, but you can become better at recognizing when you’re contributing to your own suffering. Once you realize what you’re doing, you can stop and switch mental gears so that you can be happier.
Try using this acronym to help you identify issues: S.T.O.P.
- S – See yourself as others see you and stop self-sabotaging you. If you want to change then, you need to be self-aware.
- T – Take control over your life. If you make a conscious decision that it’s time for you to change, it will be easier to accomplish.
- O – Options. You have options. What things can you do differently to change? Remember, you’re one decision away from an entirely new life.
- P – Practice new mindsets. Once you alter your perspective, it’s time to put this new way of thinking to fair use. Practice new ways to change old habits.
When you changed your inhibition, then you can change your life. Are you ready to get rid of some of the baggage that’s holding you back? Today is a brand-new day, and it’s time to be a brand-new you. After all, you deserve to be happy.